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10 Ways to Deal With A Loved One’s Depression

What do you do when your loved one is depressed?

How do you handle the emotions that are felt and easily seen?

10 Ways

  1. Pray for their heart and mind.  Understand that they’re fighting a battle that is internal and the best way to help them is by bringing God on the scene so that He can work on them.
  2. Ask how much space they need.  Making the decision or knowing just what they need at the time that they need it is so important for what they’re going through.  It doesn’t hurt to ask simple questions.
    1. Do you want me to stay with you?
    2. Do you need a little time?
  3. Protect your heart.  Find or schedule some time to do something that you will enjoy.  Take some time for yourself so that they’re depression doesn’t overtake or overwhelm you.
  4. Listen to them.  Listen to what your loved one says and watch what they do.  Sometimes their actions speak so much louder than their words.  Answer their questions before offering your own solutions.
  5. Get them outside.  Whether it’s for a walk, a quick trip to an uncrowded store or just to sit and catch some rays.  A breath of fresh air is vital.
  6. Encourage them to speak to a therapist.  To have an ear that can sift through what’s going on on the inside helps all of us.  Take the ride with them to the therapist’s office.  Offer to pay the co-pay.  Sit and wait for them or silently participate in the session, if allowed.
  7. Offer your assistance.  Offer to help clean the house, watch their children, cook a meal.  Offer to help and really help.  Do something that they can see.  It will eventually bring a smile to their face and they won’t forget it.
  8. Check on them.  Call or stop by.  Let them know that you are praying for them.  Listen and look for signs of improvement.  Let them know about the changes that you see.
  9. Be patient.  Someone’s been patient with you, even if it was someone other than who you expected.  Patiently be by your loved one’s side until they get through this time.
  10. Believe God for their mental health.  Have faith that God will bring them through this.  They need you right now and your faith definitely makes the difference.  Keep praying for them and believe and trust God for the greatest outcome.  Your loved one will be ok.

One day you will both look back on this time and see that you’ve made it.  Stay in their corner, praying and encouraging them to get to the other side.  By the way, God will reward you for hanging in there!

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Happy Memorial Day!

My (OLD) Skincare Routine…

I have a new blog called Still Sealed With Love. The purpose of this new blog is to promote my Celebration of Life and the products that I sell.

As you may be used to, my mission is still to encourage others to live the life that God has given to us. In addition to sharing my life stories, I am now a Life, Accident and Health Insurance Agent and Broker. I am also an Independent Consultant for Paparazzi (TM) Accessories.

I’d love for you to stop by and enjoy this time with me. Take a look, drop me a line and while you’re at it, take a look at this video that features what I do, by this Wonderful Woman. Rae Amari is on the rise and you want to be there to see and experience all that she has to offer!

My WAR Story!

W.A.R. Story!

It’s a #WAR Story Wednesday at #sheplants! (one of my FB groups), I’m here to tell my War Story that’s Real and of Resilience.

WAR

For the past 25 years of my life I have worked in an all-male, all-white field (of which I am neither). I began working in the industry as a teenager. I worked tirelessly, with a spirit of excellence that was rewarded by promotions, wonderful opportunities and awesome relationships.

A Blessing!

In the middle of the 25 years I switched companies (the companies are direct competitors) for an increase in pay. Again, I was rewarded as I was in the first corporation. This WAR Story sounds like a blessing because it was. My employment took care of my family. God blessed me in a place where I stood out like a sore thumb, where I met people everyday who did not want me. Instead of me feeling like the cactus (treated like so often), I was able to bloom like a tree and the fruit and branches gave my home provision. (I’m poetic 😁).
The reason that I compare myself to a tree is because throughout the past quarter of a century (yes, girl, Mama looks good for her age), I endured several storms. As I said earlier, women and color were not factors of my workplace, especially being a single parent. There were trainings that required travel (I never missed any in 25 years). I often worked 24/7 being on call, while raising my kids, might I add. If you are close to me, I’m sorry about the times that I left the table, or the room, to take yet another phone call, or worse, pull out my laptop.
Some people may say, “you had a job”! Believe me when I say that I am not complaining. I’m just telling my story. Did I mention the enormous amount of discrimination that I dealt with? Probably not, and unfortunately, that’s as far as I can go with that topic at this time.

I Conquered!

Yet, and still, I was and am blessed. I was able to accomplish so much while underneath so much pressure. I took it, I dealt with it, I smiled and oh, I CONQUERED.  I learned how to let my voice be heard. My work and my reputation spoke LOUDLY for me. Through childbirth, separation, divorce, child-rearing, school (both theological and college education), trials, tribulations, relationships, rebirth, courting, marriage and graduations, I made it!

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Millennials are now in control (that’s what I’m told) and my time in that industry is done. I believe that God has new waters for me. Stay tuned as I write about it more in depth because there are so many stories to tell. I just wanted to share this war story with you to say that I made it!

Happy Mother’s Day!

Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.
Proverbs 31:30 NLT
https://bible.com/bible/116/pro.31.30.NLT

When Life Disappoints You…

What do you do when life disappoints you…?

We all experience those days.

You never heard the alarm clock.  You’re running late.  Your pet vomits in front of the door way.  You forgot to sign paperwork that’s needed today. The car is acting up.  You don’t have the exact change for the bus/train.  You bang your bad foot against the door.  There’s an accident on the highway.  Your boss/teacher has warned you about being late and to make matters worse, they don’t like you.

There are many other scenarios that we encounter that may differ from the ones above, but we do understand that there are days when everything seems to go wrong.  It feels like one big disappointment after another.  This situations may even seem minor.  We could be facing a trial, losing our homes, dealing with the loss of a loved one or anything that makes the little disappointments seem pale in comparison.

In the 15th and 16th chapters of 2 Samuel, King David, is dealing with a disappointing time in his life.  His son, Absalom, wants to replace him on the throne, in his home and is trying to end his life!  David is beyond disappointed, he’s grieving.  It was at this time of extreme disappointment and grief that he said the prayer recorded in the 3rd Psalm.

Lord, how are they increased that trouble me! many are they that rise up against me.  Many there be which say of my soul, There is no help for him in God. Selah. But thou, O LORD, art a shield for me; my glory, and the lifter up of mine head.  I cried unto the LORD with my voice, and He heard me out of His holy hill. Selah. I laid me down and slept; I awaked; for the LORD sustained me.  I will not be afraid of ten thousands of people, that have set themselves against me round about. Psalm 3:1-6

David was a mess!

David’s faith kept him through a very, very ugly time in his life.  Here he was running for his life, from his son.  We can’t imagine his position and if you can, I pray that you have the strength to trust God to save you, because God saved David from this situation and avenged him too!

Are you in a mess?

Are you trusting God to keep you in, even while dealing with disappointments in your life?  Are you running to God instead of away from the problems? Do you believe that God can lift you up and bring you above the disappointing areas in your life?

When Life Disappoints

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